Love & Loss Reflections
Grief is not a problem to be solved or a state to be rushed through. It is an initiation — one that alters the shape of the heart, the way we listen, and the depth at which we love. These reflections were written for those moments when life breaks open in ways we did not choose, and yet are asked to meet with honesty, presence, and care.
The Love & Loss series explores grief as a sacred threshold rather than a failure of faith or strength. Here, sorrow is not bypassed or spiritualised away, but honoured as a teacher that carries its own intelligence. These writings speak to the lived experience of loss — the ache, the disorientation, the quiet reckonings — and the slow remembering that can follow.
This space is for those walking through loss, and for those learning how to stay awake inside it. You are welcome to move slowly here. Read what calls to you. There is no right pace, no correct outcome — only the invitation to remain present, honest, and human.
"Hey Mama, I'm Still Here"—Connecting with Jordy Beyond the Veil By Dehyana Do you believe you can connect with your loved ones on the other side? Maybe you've felt their presence, heard their voice in a quiet moment,
Speaking the Unspeakable: The Truth About Suicide and Stigma By Dehyana In previous blogs, I shared how my immediate response to Jordy’s suicide was one of complete disbelief. It was as though I had hit the eject button
What do You do When You Hit a Stop Sign in Life? By Dehyana Let me share a story. During the pandemic, I was sitting outside in my garden enjoying lunch, not thinking about much at all. When
The Wounded Healer: Embracing the Scar of Suffering By Dehyana The Nature of Pain and Change "The only constant is change. When change causes you pain, that pain is grief.” It must be witnessed, processed
Platitudes Or Presence: Where Are You Coming From? By Dehyana When grief comes crashing down, well-meaning voices often rush to fill the silence with phrases like "You're strong," "Time heals," or "Keep busy.” “They’re in a better place.” It
A Bittersweet Christmas: Finding Love and Faith in Grief By Dehyana The Changing Landscape of Christmas Christmas has always been my favourite season—a time of warmth, glowing lights, and joy shared with loved ones. But this year feels different.
